It is wondrous how we encounter people who come into our lives, sometimes to grace our mutual growth in harmony, sometimes to grace it in contention.

Have you ever met someone who causes you to feel elated, just to be in their presence? And how you look forward to when next you meet? Have you ever met someone who causes you to feel uncomfortable and possibly annoyed? And how you look, with dread, forward to when next you meet?

Many people believe the appropriate, saintly thing to do is to treat each other with dignity and composure, but we know that it is not always possible to hold that feeling within ourselves, no matter how placid our exterior may seem. If you understand that 95% of all communication is energy, not verbal nor physical, you are not really hiding the truth of your feelings for another, whether they be hostile nor loving.

All this talk about behaving like saints. I believe it is our humanness that makes us, well, human. We worry about becoming angry, or worrying, or holding judgment. We all get angry, worry and judge. I believe if we were just to act in a harmless manner towards each other, that we reflect to others the sincerity of our hearts, that a possibility would exist in the other person to accept our sincerity.

After all, the most sincere acts on our part can go unheeded and unnoticed by another. Those reflections in the pool of others we encounter are the many faces we emanate, like the sun, constantly radiating and changing as personalities though constant as souls.

I suppose, on some higher level, we all really do know our soul’s journey both individually and collectively. Look around you. Who are you in relationship with? Who are your lovers, your friends, your co-workers? Did you script this play, and what is your part in it?

To understand yourself, look at the company you keep. There are people who sit at home and dream of a better life. There are anonymous ones who volunteer their time in burn units for children and adults. There are those who tell you you must follow their ways. There are those who tell you, you must follow God.

It has been said by sages: The only way to know God is with a direct, revelatory experience. That is, the reflections you see around you in others are all, in some way, pointing you towards yourself and your precious, sacred connection to all things.

When next you meet someone, how will that interaction point you towards a higher expression of yourself? What will you do with it? Is it a blessing or a curse? How will you define your experiences as growth opportunities?

Love yourself, love what you do, see the good in others and any good they may reflect back to you. Though the last part may at times be exceedingly difficult, it is possible. Make the effort to know the person who is reflecting you to yourself. They are in your life for a reason. You are already a saint in the making; be human, be harmless.

Given in love and in service,
Richard Jelusich, Ph.D.

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Eye of the Lotus by Dr. Jelusich

Eye of the Lotus: Psychology of the Chakras published in 2004, discusses dominant chakras and how they affect our perceptions of reality.

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I Can Relate

I Can Relate: How we intuitively choose the people in our lives is about how and why we take intuitive relationships to each other, along with 27 case histories.

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Through the Mirror and Back Again

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